I was reflecting this morning on what it is like to be a mother with only sons no daughters. At the moment my boys are young so the differences between having a boy or girl is really only obvious when doing their hair (more to the point not having do their hair) and changing nappies.  Both my youngest boys are into different types of playing, one of them really loves his dolls house and role playing, he is very cautious and hesitates to do anything to dangerous or away from me, so I feel I do have a daughter in some ways,  although, like most other boys, he would much rather be kicking a ball and won’t sit still. My other little one is a boy boy in the generalised term, gets into everything, bumps, bruises, eats dirt and rough and tumble.

I was one of two girls so never got to witness the relationship a mother has with her young son. What I have come to realise though is that my relationship with my boys is very similar to that of what my mum had with my sister and I when we were little.

I thought that perhaps being boys they wouldn’t be into cuddles, tickles, kisses but have been proved wrong. I also didn’t think they would be interested in the mumma but again proved wrong. In fact I was surprised how clingy boys can be to their mum. It isn’t until my eldest boy (stepson 8.5yrs old) turned about 5 that he actually showed interest in his dad, before that it was all about me.

I think the point in time when I will be sad about not having daughters is when my boys are grown up as this seems to be the point when you can see a difference between the relationship mother and daughters have to that of a mother and sons. Although I imagine I will still be close to my boys and they will enjoy coming over for a roast, they will not be inclined to want to go to the movies, shopping or even on a relaxing holiday with me so this is where I think I will feel the loss of only having sons.

I think the ideal family make up would be 2 boys  and 2 girls then the parents get both sons and daughters and the siblings get sisters and brothers. But  four children Wow that’s to busy to comprehend for me and the chances of me getting another 2 boys is why to high to risk.

So I will enjoy my beautiful boys and hope that one day they bring home some lovely daughter in laws !!

A great book to read: Raising Brothers by Steve Biddulph